Courage, Connection and Creation
I want to update you on where I’ve been and introduce a multi part series on Courage Connection and Creation! So most of you know I took some time away to plan our wedding, celebrate our marriage with an amazing honeymoon, and take some time to focus on our marriage. It’s been an awesome year. Our wedding was beautiful, but the road leading up to it was pretty bumpy for both my husband and I. Let me start by saying my idea of a wedding has always been a courthouse followed by a small intimate reception, however as my husband and I began talking and thinking about our dearest friends and family, we wanted to celebrate this special time in our lives with them. Although our wedding day was truly a dream come true, I could not have imagined how much of a struggle it would be to plan our special day.
Anyone who knows me, knows I am organized to a fault, but I knew early on in the process that wedding planning plus a full time job, plus a coaching business would equal disaster if I didn’t enlist a team to help. We found a venue that we fell in love with, and took care of everything. I hired a design team to handle the ambiance, and I had a spreadsheet for everything from the budget to the shuttle transportation to the day of timeline. My bridesmaids weren’t even surprised when I got them together on a video call to share with them the planning. So it seemed that we had everything under control, but what I failed to account for was the feeling of isolation that would set in.
This was a new journey for me. I’ve never planned a wedding. I’ve never been married. Everyone had expectations of us, but more so me. A bride should do this, and are you going to have that? Some people had an issue with the invitations, some had issues with who was or wasn’t invited, others had something to say about the favors. People that I expected to support us, were just adding to the stress. While I was preparing for the most exciting time of my life, some of the people closest to me seemed to be doing everything in their power to steal my joy. I wish I could say that it didn’t bother me, but it felt like we were being attacked at all angles, and there was not much more I could take. I became so stressed and angered that people who were supposed to love us were making us miserable. Instead of focusing on the circle of support and love that surrounded us, I focused on the negativity.
I’ve said it before so many times, energy is everything. Although I knew that this was supposed to be the happiest time in my life, I was resonating in catabolic energy. I became the victim. The moment I allowed myself to resonate with overwhelm and stress, I allowed the enemy to come in and attack my energy, and my peace, I realized I had to become courageous. You might say, okay balanced mindset coach, great story ,but what does that have to do with me? How does that help me? I’ll tell you. We are all a work in progress. We all have ebbs and flows, but there are moments that we all feel attacked, stressed overwhelmed. It can be in our personal lives or professional lives, but when we feel it, and we know it’s impacting the way we are showing up, we have a choice to make.
I made a choice and that choice was to confront myself and share with others my experience of them so that I could move forward. Some of those discussions were beautiful and fueled even deeper relationships and understanding. While others were not as productive and created a divide, and that’s completely okay because communication isn’t about agreement, it’s about hearing the others perspective and choosing the path what will serve you. In life, we all have moments or even periods of time where we need a strong support system – colleagues, teams, friends or family. In those moments, it’s important to ask for what you need and lean in on those relationships that fuel you as opposed to the ones that drain you.
If you’re struggling with stress and overwhelm and you don’t know how to move forward, but you’re ready to make some shifts contact me below. Let’s chat.