Who's In Your Corner Really Matters!
Today I’m sitting here reflecting on how much love I have in my life and it’s such a blessing. Who’s in your corner matters. Over the past few years, It hasn’t been easy, but sometimes you have to hold people at a distance, and learn to preserve your peace. There are some people that operate on energetic waves and exhibit catabolic energy- energy that is draining. Other people operate at a more anabolic and uplifting energy. There’s no right or wrong as to how an individual wants to show up in life, but for me I chose to be a light. I chose to meet people where they are, radiate love, and move on if their energy causes harm to me.
When you are surrounded by people who truly want the best for you, hold on to them. At work, you need to build a circle of supporters, people who not only champion you, but people who inspire you. I am so fortunate to have a circle of co-workers whom I adore. There are men and women who I’ve met over my career and they are my people! They are my safe place. They tell me that I’ve done a great job, and provide me visionary statements for how they could see my idea progressing to make a larger impact, and they also tell me when I haven’t done so well and challenge me to bring my whole self and to do better. It’s important to have a circle that challenges you to see what’s possible. In my personal life, I am so blessed to have lifelong friends, and even more recent friends. My circle is like family. We support one another, encourage one another, and root each other on. When one of us is down, we are there to pick each other up. It’s truly a beautiful thing.
On the other hand, I’ve also had people in my life who aren’t so supportive. When they hear of any good news, they focus on themselves, and play the victim. Instead of being happy for a someone else’s happiness, there are people out there who will take your happiness as a personal jab against them. It’s important to remember that one person’s happiness does not negate another person’s ability to be happy. Instead of having a pity party, try sharing in the other person’s happiness. They are not taking anything away from you. No one’s life is perfect, we all have ups and downs. Life if all about ebbs and flows, and you have to learn to ride the waves. To me, happiness comes from connection and finding opportunities.
When I encounter people who want to rob me of my happiness, I accept them. They are who they are, and I am who I am. My inner peace is more important than maintaining toxic relationships, no matter who you are or how long I’ve know you. I come first and you should too. When you encounter people who want to steal your joy – sometimes is a co-worker, sometimes it’s a family member or a friend- what do you do? I look for opportunities. One opportunity might be saying, Wow it sounds like you’re going thru a rough time, acknowledging their struggle. Share with them that they have every right to feel bad, however there is a silver lining. Share with them how you’ve overcome struggles, and that they have a choice to remain at the effect of life or they can start operating at the cause. Show up for them, and be a light. Be true to your intentions and your values, but protect your peace. If every interaction becomes a drain for you, you then have to make a choice.
Are you struggling with balancing your inner peace because of toxic relationships? Those relationships, if gone unchecked, can destroy your inner peace. It can break down your spirit. Sometimes, we need to take a step back, and maybe even a step (or giant leap) away from those who refuse to move out of their own way, and as a result drain your light. Are you struggling with who is in your corner? If you are, and want to get your inner peace back, let’s chat.