My Dreams Spoke to Me and I Listened-

I had the weirdest dream last week. I was hanging out at a café and in the dream, a friend of mine that I haven’t seen in years called and said she was in town and wanted to go out for drinks. I told her where I was and she picked me up. I got in the car, happy to see her, but was so confused because she was driving in reverse. She was on the right side of the road but instead of going forward, she was backing up. In my mind, I thought, this can’t be safe. Why would she choose the most difficult way to get to our destination. I was worried and I was uncomfortable, yet I allowed it.

I asked her why she was driving like this and in the dream, I accepted that it’s just the way she likes to drive. I only mildly protested, although I knew it was dangerous and pretty dumb. At this point we were getting close to our destination, and she ended up somehow hitting her head on the steering wheel, rendering her unconscious. I knew if I didn’t do something, we’d both be killed. Ultimately, I was able to stop the car and get us to safety.

You’re probably wondering what I ate before I went to bed, and to be honest I have no idea. I spent the better part of the next few days trying to understand the dream. I looked up articles and paged thru a book on dream interpretations, but then it hit me. I have the answer, and I had it all along, I just was curious if someone else knew better than me. Isn’t that crazy? How could someone who doesn’t know me, interpret my dream better than I? Even crazier, why did I need someone else’s validation to tell me if I’m right or wrong.

My interpretation is this. I was actually exhibiting the behavior that the dream was reflecting back to me. It was about me being more vocal even when it’s not what other people want to hear. In my dream, my friend needed to hear that her actions were irresponsible, yet I was being polite and I was not listening to my intuition – that inner voice that guides me. I know me best, and I know without a doubt when something is out of alignment, yet because I didn’t want to offend my friend, I remained polite, and risked my own life. What I took away from this dream is that I need to care less about what people think, even if I think they will be offended. Being offended is not my issue. I would never purposely offend someone because it’s not my character. If by sharing my truth, and someone has a negative reaction, I can’t help that. Each and every one of us is responsible for our own reactions.

In our personal lives and our professional lives, we have to be honest with ourselves if no one else. If we live a life that is not true to us, or if we placate others to fit in, we are out of alignment with our truth. If we continue down this path, we become entrenched in a lie and then, as a result, feel alone, depressed, and/or angry. Let’s not go down that path. Live our truth!

If we share our truth in a manner that is full of grace and authenticity, we’ve done it right. If someone finds offense in that, it’s not our issue- it’s theirs. In the past, I’ve shared my truth with people who were supposed to be the closest to me, but because they operated from a place of control based on fear, they became offended. I understand that we are all at different places, and we resonate at different energetic levels- the fear and control is catabolic. If someone is operating there, they see limited options, and therefore cannot see the opportunity in truth. The reality is if we truly can see the intention behind someone’s authentic truth, we can start to see it for what it is, without bias. If we’re living in catabolic energy, it’s difficult to see anything but anger and malice. I’m including myself in this reminder -We’re not here to be controlled by others, we’re here to live a life in alignment with our deepest sense of self.

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